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Asking out your crush for a
Valentine’s Day date or isn’t something to be feared. I get that
even asking your crush out is a momentous occasion and that Valentine’s
Day may have a reputation for making people go slightly
romance-Obsessed, but it shouldn’t hold you back from asking out that
guy or girl you’ve had your eye on. You just want to spend the day with
someone you care about, and, so in the name
of Romance and red and pink heart hotcakes, know that asking your
crush out on Valentine’s Day is a-okay and totally eventual. Here are some
tips to help you out from:
Stop Putting Pressure on this Day :)
So, so what if Saturday or the day you want to take your crush out is
also Valentine’s Day? So what if you wanted to go out on the most
over-blown romantic day of the year? It is your right to take your crush
out, no matter the day or celebration. Sure, restaurants might force
the per-fix menu on you two at an excessive price and there may be more
run-in with more lovers & couples, but seriously, Valentine’s Day isn’t just
about that. It’s also about marked down chocolate . We
all know it’s blown up, but it’s not meant to put pressure on you to be
over the top and romantic. It’s meant for you think about that special
someone, and that’s okay if you want that special someone to be with you
on Valentine’s Day. yesss..!
Say It Creatively ;)
Using the poo emoji in a text to ask your crush out does not count. I
want that established. Yet, while we can’t all be Heath Ledger in 10
Things I Hate About You and bribe an A.V. nerd and the high school
marching band to ask out a girl during soccer practice, we can at least
put some effort to think outside the iPhone texting box. I suggest food,
maybe a pizza. Who doesn’t love surprise pizzas delivered to their
place of work or home? Better yet, find somewhere that makes
heart-shaped pies. Is that too cheesy? Puns aside, the more creative you
decide to go, the sweeter the gesture. It doesn’t have to be big per
se, but it does have to be different and maybe heartfelt. Try playing
off an inside joke or even just catering to something your crush likes,
like pizza.
Use a Pick-Up Line :*
No they are not sleezy or too cheesy. Delivered properly, they can
have the right amount of both: enough sleeze to get the message of
attraction across and enough cheese to be endearing. I would stay away
from any pick-up lines with punchlines about getting your crush out of
their pants later, because those tend to go up in sleeze factor. Yet a
nice sweet, well meaning pick-up line can at least break the ice about
the follow up “will you go on a date with me?” question. Pick-up lines
are so formulaic that your crush probably already knows where the
conversation is headed anyway, and the ever-suave pick-up line serves to
butter them up.
Pretend that It’s Not Valentine’s Day :o
Sure, February 14 might be considered the most pressure-filled
romantic holiday according to greeting card companies, but did you know
that it was also the day that Alexander Graham Bell applied to patent
the telephone? It’s also Oregon’s anniversary as the 33rd state of the
great U.S. of A. There are tons to celebrate on February 14, and while
love might be on everyone’s minds, you and your crush can accept that it
really is just a date and have fun without thinking too much about it.
Heck, make a big deal out of the telephone while you’re at it. It’s an
incredible invention that has been instrumental to modern day dating,
evolving from answering machines to texting to suggestive emojis.
Get Them a Valentine Anyway ;) ;)
It might be your prospective first date with each other, so flowers
and a big heart-shaped box of chocolate might be overkill, but I would
say that even a small nod to the holiday would be sweet. That’s a “yes”
to a funny Valentine card but a big fat “no” to stuffed bears from CVS.
Those scream last minute. Even a box of those chalky sweethearts with
“Be My Valentine?” imprinted on it would be okay. Who could say no to a
date and to something simple, sweet, edible, and that comes with
requests?
It Doesn’t Matter Who Asks Who
We always found it interesting that many of my girlfriends or boyfriend felt that
the guy or girl should initiate a date. No. If it’s your crush and you feel like
he or she might be special enough to share a plate of spaghetti and
meatballs over candlelight like Lady and Tramp from the most romantic
Disney scene ever, then you should do it. You’re not allowed to say that
you missed the opportunity if you don’t take it, and you’d rather try
then not try at all It’s extremely old fashioned to let a guy determine
when the two of you should go on a date, because women can make that
choice too. it just
means that women can hold open the door or have an opinion on where to
wine and dine too.
Have Something Casual in Mind 0:)
If you’re asking your crush out, you better have a plan for when they
agree. I say “agree” because I’m optimistic of your chances, but once
you have the question and the acceptance on the table, you better have
some semblance of a plan to present. Think of it as a romantic business
transaction. Your crush is sitting there, wanting to know what you have
in mind, and now you are on the spot with only dinner and possibly a
movie to suggest. That’s fine, but remember, you decided to ask your
crush out on Valentine’s Day. Most dinner places will already be booked
with reservations or have a pre-fix menu that will limit your palate
choices, so you might have to get a little outside the box here than the
usual date fare. Yes, this could be skeeball and soup dumplings, but
your odds at getting a spot there might be better than trying that fancy
Italian place down the street.
Just Do It ->
What do you have to lose? Okay, I understand that you don’t want to
blow it, but over-thinking and inaction really isn’t getting you
anywhere. All of the worry about the day, the place, and how can easily
psyche you out, so I say, go do it. You want someone to share a low-key
Valentine’s Day with, and the odds are that your crush wouldn’t mind
spending Valentine’s Day with someone other than Netflix — surely, your
crush would rather spend time with you
obviously. I say to just
go for it. Valentine’s Day isn’t supposed to be a day you’re too scared
to ask out your crush. There shouldn’t be pressure. It’s all about you
wanting to be with that special someone, and you can only do it, once
you put yourself out there. It’s totally fine too, if your date results
in cuddling in front of Netflix. That’s still in the spirit of
Valentine’s Day too.
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